When to Listen and When to Advise: Lessons from a Live Coaching Conversation

Have you ever been asked for help but then felt like you were just giving unwanted advice? It’s tough to know how to make your words count. On my team, we use an approach called coaching that focuses on active listening to really support and empower the clergy and lay leaders we work with. We’ve also found that this method can make you a better friend.

Today, I bring you a live coaching session with Fr. Scott Schilmoeller, Vocations Director for the Archdiocese of Omaha. We explore how coaching principles like active listening, asking the right questions, and encouraging growth can transform not only professional roles but also personal friendships. You will also hear Fr. Schilmoeller share his experiences and strategies for promoting vocations. Whether you’re interested in coaching, vocations, or simply becoming a better friend, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to support and uplift those around you more effectively.

[02:34] Coaching Session Overview
[03:45] Identifying Priorities and Vision
[06:54] Understanding Vocation Hotspots
[14:33] Accompanying and Supporting Leaders
[24:07] Encouraging Active Listening
[27:24] Creating a Concrete Format
[28:07] Naming Next Steps
[34:23] Benefits of Coaching
[36:17] Distinguishing Coaching from Other Disciplines
[43:05] Finding the Right Coach

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Metanoia Catholic
• Omaha Vocations

For more practical advice and experiences from real people sharing their mission with the world, go to https://equip.archomaha.org/podcast/.

A Production of the Archdiocese of Omaha
Editor: Taylor Schroll (ForteCatholic.com)